Male sexual arousal is a complex process. This includes the processing of external information (what the stronger sex sees and hears), psychological preparation for sex, anticipation of pleasure and direct physiological response of the body. How this process happens in guys and how to speed up arousal is useful for every woman.
Where does it all begin?
The onset of arousal is determined by various sensory stimuli. A girl's smell, her kisses and touches, her external appearance (especially without clothes) stimulate the centers in the brain, which transmit a signal to the genitals through the nervous system.
Hormones are involved in this process. Dr. John Bancroft, an American sexologist and part-time 4th director of the Kinsey Sex Research Institute, claims that the level of testosterone in the blood determines a man's degree of arousal. Such a conclusion was reached after conducting a study, the results of which were published in the article "Endocrinology of sexual arousal" in the journal "Endocrinology".
This results in an erection. This is the filling of the cavernous bodies of the penis with blood. The muscles contract and prevent the veins from draining, as a result of which the penis hardens, increases (on average 3-4 times), pulsation is felt. Often this reaction occurs within seconds of sexual stimulation. Interestingly, during foreplay, the erection may weaken and strengthen again - this is completely normal.
The British Journal of Urology International published a study conducted among 20 thousand. The sizes of their genital organs were measured. Men from all over the world participated. As a result, it turned out that the average size of the penis at rest is 9. 16 cm, and during erection - 13, 12 cm.
There are three types of erection. One of them - nocturnal (spontaneous) - occurs without sexual connotations. The other two accompany male sexual arousal.
Psychogenic (or psychological) - occurs against the background of stimulation of brain centers. Nerve impulses are transmitted to the spinal cord, then through the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex - occurs when the penis is touched. Because this organ has many nerve endings and its skin is extremely sensitive, even light touches can irritate the penis and cause blood flow.
In addition to an erection, a man's pulse increases, his breathing increases, and his blood pressure rises (as do half of the female population). The scrotum becomes thicker and may become denser, and the testicles rise. The upper part of the body is slightly reddened. Lubricating fluid is released, facilitating the entry of sperm through the canal.
What turns men on?
In addition to a beautiful picture (naked woman, or dressed in lacy underwear, dancing, lying seductively, etc. ), the prelude plays a big role. Men also need the arousal to be as strong as possible. The surest way for a girl to turn a guy on is to stimulate his sensitive areas. They include:
- Head, neck and chest;
- Abdomen (especially the lower part) and back;
- Genital organs and surrounding areas.
Prelude in most cases begins with kisses. A passionate kiss from a girl can already cause an erection and put the guy in the right mood. There are many nerve endings on the lips, in addition, he feels the sexuality of his partner and anticipates the upcoming sex. At this time, the back of the head can be stroked with the hands, this area is also very sensitive. Many men like to have their earlobes kissed and bitten, but you have to be careful with this, because there are some who absolutely do not like this process.
The lower abdomen is a great place to caress before oral sex (from the navel down). The back is suitable for erotic massage. By the way, this can be done not only with hands, but also with lips, hair, bare chest.
Everything is clear with the genitals - any movements in this area are welcome and cause sexual excitement in men. You should beware of sudden movements; guys may fear for the safety of their dignity. Blowjob, manual techniques - all this maximizes the desire of the partner. Nearby are inner thighs that can be caressed with hands.
Representatives of the stronger sex get excited quite quickly. However, they need more time (from several hours to a day) than women to rest and fully recover after sex, as this process takes a lot of energy from them. Therefore, repeated sexual arousal may not occur quickly for all men, and this should be viewed with understanding.
Sexual arousal in men
When you see a partner who is sexually attractive to you, you first get excited psychologically and then physically. But how it happens is a question that is little known to most people. What does science say? She believes that arousal is a physiological sexual response.
More precisely, its first stage. That is, a whole series of processes. They have no gender differences: increased breathing and heart rate, the appearance of muscle tension, increased blood pressure, increased salivation, dilated pupils, redness and goosebumps, as well as nipple erection.
With sexual arousal, psychological behavior, gaze and voice change. This is due to the release of hormones into the blood, which act on the body like drugs. In men, in addition to the above, there is an erection of the penis, the rise of the scrotum to the pubis, its swelling and thickening, as well as the release of pre-ejaculate to lubricate the head.
In women, additional lubrication occurs, thinning or, on the contrary, an increase in the labia majora (depending on whether the woman has given birth or not), clitoral erection, rise and enlargement of the uterus, tension of the pubic-sacral muscles, increase. vaginal length.
By the way, if in men, reddening of the skin is observed in rare cases, then in women, blood flows not only to the clitoris and labia, but also to the chest and back. For some women, this redness is so noticeable that the area between the chest to the shoulders and neck may even turn red during and after orgasm.
Why so many reactions? They are associated with the rush of blood, which the body performs to achieve greater sensitivity of the genitals, and preparation for the second phase of the cycle of sexual reactions - intercourse. After the arousal phase there are: the plateau phase (sexual act), the orgasm phase and the phase of completion of sexual reactions.
The excitement phase may not occur. This is often a physical rather than a psychological problem. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disorder in which the strength of an erection is insufficient for sexual intercourse. There are three types of impotence: psychological, organic and mixed.
For many men, erectile dysfunction is related to the organic form due to various diseases. The most common causes are cardiovascular diseases, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of blood supply to the organs and the level of hormones are disrupted.
With some diseases, bad habits, the use of certain drugs, especially those affecting the central nervous system, and a sedentary lifestyle, blood circulation in the pelvic organs weakens, so the main reaction of a man's sexual arousal does not occur - the filling of the cavernous bodies with blood.
Drugs, alcohol and smoking affect not only the physical but also the psychological state, so impotence changes from an organic form to a mixed one. You can't delay this situation, it can be easily fixed in the first place. You need to see a urologist or a sex therapist.
Men are sexually aroused much more often than they reach orgasm. Prolonged abstinence can cause serious damage to the body in general and the genitals in particular. Women's favorite slogan "we will excite you and not let you go" is good in moderation - you should not overuse such entertainment. Sexual dissatisfaction seriously affects not only physical, but also mental health. A man becomes nervous, angry, irritable. Regular orgasm is an important condition for the normal functioning of the body. . And there is practically no difference in how it is obtained - during sex or masturbation.